A husband should fulfill his obligation to his wife, and a wife should do the same for her husband" (1Corinthians 7:3, International Standard Version).
"The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband" (1Corinthians 7:3, Amplified).
As I promised some time ago, the marriage blog is back, lets savour this and probably next week we continue from here.
Marriage is about responsibility: I take responsibility for my wife's actions and she takes responsibility for mine as well. Adam did not understand this, and the human race is still suffering the consequences of that indiscretion. With responsibility comes the issue of accountability: I am accountable to my wife as she is to me. If you are not ready to be responsible and accountable, don't bother to get married.
You may not agree with me, but I think that the best place to test how responsible a human being could be is in a marriage situation. That is why I consider every man who is happily married to be a truly responsible person, even if he is thought to be irresponsible elsewhere. The same is what I would like to think of a woman who could hold her home. If you are familiar with the biblical story of Nabal and the meaning of the man's name, you would know that any fool could make money, head a big corporation, and even govern a state. Yes, I admit that it would require some skills and proficiency to achieve all that. However, it will take a lot more to keep a wife (or husband as the case may be), hold a home together and nurture a successful marriage. That is why a married man or woman is traditionally referred to as a responsible person.
Marriage is about giving and sacrificing for the other person. From the point at which a man gets married, he is no longer permitted by the laws of God as shown in the Holy Scriptures, to live for himself. He must thenceforth live for his wife and the family he is bringing to being. The same goes for the wife. The moment a woman gets married, she no longer has a life of her own to live. She must live for her husband and her children. But some people cherish their freedom so much that they cannot submit to that sacrificial lifestyle which God has ordained for marital unions. Such a man or a woman has no business getting hooked up in marriage.
Because of all the above, self centredness is never welcome in marriage. I have often heard people say that the average person is naturally selfish. I consider that selfishness to be the most constant culprit at the heart of every marital crisis at the end of the day. That nature must be dealt with and jettisoned by anyone who wants to have a happy marriage. The day Eve was created (and by implication, the day Adam got married), Adam stopped talking about himself except when it had to do with the woman. When you stop singing of how your spouse hurt you, and you start thinking of how to be a blessing to the other person, most of the problems we have with our relationships will be eliminated.
Whoever claims to love must also show it by being responsible, liberal and self sacrificing for the object of his love. Let us learn from the Lord, our God who took responsibility for the sins of the world, gave up His only begotten Son, and sacrificed Him so that it might be well with mankind - the object of His love.
A.T. Joel is a Prophet, an Evangelist and presently the presiding Minister at ROSAM CENTRE Headquarter, Lagos, Nigeria. He has being a source of blessing to thousands of souls and highly resourceful in youth evangelism. He is the host of the famous Youth on Exploit(A ministry dedicate to winning young people for God)
For revival, seminar and life coaching section you can reach Him through talktoatjoel@gmail.com, atjoel11@gmail.com, championscorner@yahoo.com and 08029052915, 07068991509
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