"So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself" (Ephesians 5:28).
A
man should love his wife as his own self, being his first and closest
neighbor, for the Bible says 'love your neighbor as yourself'.
The
greatest sign of love is giving - from the heart. Let us start with the
issue of time. How much of your time and attention do you give to that
lovely lady you married? Many women have been exposed to temptation
because of neglect and lack of attention from the husband. If you are
not always there for her, you have unwittingly opened the door for
somebody else to be there for her, and whoever is always there for her
will eventually be there in her. I have seen this happen time and again,
even among pastors.
I travel a lot as a
teaching evangelist, running leaders' conferences across nations and
preaching at church conventions here and there. But I also make time to
be with my wife because I truly love her. I try to structure my schedule
in such a way that I am not away from her for too long. And when I am
away, I make sure that I speak with her on phone well enough on a daily
basis.
Don't just be a man to your wife, be
her husBAND. Take a good look at the last four letters of that word, and
you understand what I mean. I have been married for only 19 years, and
all through those years, we have slept on the same bed. For once, it has
never crossed my mind that my wife and I should have separate
bedrooms.
Thank God for the admonition to
always buy gifts for our wives. But I counsel: let the husband himself
be the first gift for his wife. If you are guilty of not giving your
wife enough attention, do this: take a 'wife retreat' or 'love retreat',
just the two of you. If you are so busy, two or three days should do.
Go away from home if you can. It's a time for you to be there for one
another. Take my counsel, you will be glad you did.
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